A birth plan can be a tremendous asset to a mother and her partner. A birth plan, in many ways, empowers a woman to make her own decisions about what is best for her and for her baby during the labor and delivery process. In addition, a birth plan can help to avoid many of the most negative parts of the labor and delivery experience, and provide an extra degree of comfort and confidence for the new mother. Yet, talking to your doctor about your birth plan can be somewhat intimidating.
Different doctors tend to have different approaches to labor and delivery. Some tend to be more open than others are to talking to you about your birth plan. Some will talk to you about your birth plan, and then when the time comes, just sort of do whatever it is that they believe they should do. Others will not be interested in your birth plan at all, but will follow through with every request when the big day comes.
In fact, if it is possible, you should probably talk to your doctor about how he feels about birth plans when you first meet with him. In fact, in an ideal world, you would make the doctor’s approach to birth plans an important part of deciding on a doctor to use for labor and delivery. Unfortunately, this is not always possible. A woman may have a strong rapport with her OB/GYN, for example, before becoming pregnant, and not want to insult her by choosing another OB/GYN for her pregnancy care.
The bottom line when talking to your doctor about your birth plan is that you need to indicate what exactly it is that you want from her, what you expect her to do or not do, and to let her know what your concerns are in regard to labor and delivery. You need to be confident that you are indeed qualified to make many of the decisions about your labor and birth, while still allowing your doctor to help you make some of the most important decisions, especially the medical decisions.